Get Better Series: 7 New Year’s Resolutions for Parents of Adult Children
As the calendar turns and a new year dawns, it’s the perfect time for parents of adult children to refresh their relationships, reflect on growth, and resolve to strengthen the unique bond they share with their grown kids.
Parenting doesn’t end when your children grow up; it evolves. While the responsibilities may look different, the heart of parenting remains steadfast: love, guidance, and unwavering support. Here are seven inspiring New Year’s resolutions to help you embrace this next chapter of parenting with grace and joy.
1. Listen More, Advise Less
It’s tempting to jump in with advice when your adult child shares their struggles or plans. However, this year, resolve to prioritize listening. Allow them the space to voice their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or unsolicited input. Proverbs 18:13 reminds us, “To answer before listening—that is folly and shame.” When you truly listen, you build trust and deepen your connection.
2. Respect Their Independence
Your child is no longer the teenager who relied on you for every decision. Respect their autonomy, even if their choices differ from what you would choose. Celebrate their ability to carve out their own path. As Galatians 5:13 encourages, “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free.” Let your support empower them, not overshadow them.
3. Celebrate Their Wins—Big and Small
From career milestones to personal victories, your adult children thrive on knowing that you’re their biggest cheerleader. Make it a point this year to celebrate their achievements, no matter how small they seem. A quick text, a heartfelt note, or even a dinner in their honor can mean the world. A spirit of encouragement fosters joy and mutual appreciation.
4. Create New Traditions
Family traditions don’t have to fade as children grow older. Instead, let them evolve. Collaborate with your adult children to create new traditions that suit this phase of life. Whether it’s an annual family hike, a game night, or a holiday brunch, these moments strengthen bonds and create cherished memories.
5. Invest in Your Own Growth
Parenting often involves pouring yourself into your children, but this year, resolve to invest in your own growth and interests. Pursue a hobby, deepen your faith, or embark on a new adventure. As you grow personally, you model lifelong learning and resilience to your children. After all, “They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green” (Psalm 92:14).
6. Be a Source of Wisdom, Not Pressure
Your life experiences are a treasure trove of wisdom, but offering it without imposing pressure is key. Instead of saying, “You should do this,” try, “Here’s what worked for me.” By sharing without expectation, you become a safe space where they can seek advice without fear of judgment or obligation.
7. Pray for Them Daily
One of the most profound acts of love you can offer your adult children is daily prayer. Lift them up to God, asking for His guidance, protection, and blessings over their lives. Philippians 1:3-4 beautifully captures this: “I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy.” Your prayers can have a ripple effect, touching their hearts and lives in ways you may never see.
A Year of Love and Connection
This year, approach your relationship with your adult children as a beautiful dance—a balance of love, respect, and intentionality. Embrace the privilege of watching them grow and navigate their own journeys while remaining a steadfast source of support. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection; it’s connection.
As the New Year unfolds, let these resolutions guide you to build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship with your adult children. Cherish every moment, nurture the bond, and walk this journey with an open heart. Here’s to a year of growth, grace, and deeper family ties!
